From disagreements to proximity. Why are ups and downs - the key to the best relationship

It often seems to us that the main feature of healthy relationships is harmony. We strive for absolute understanding, because we are sure that this is a synonym for happiness and prosperity. We perceive any disagreements with a partner very painfully, because it seems to us that they marked the beginning of the end.

The famous psychologist Edward Trinik and Pediatrician Claudia Gold prove that human interaction is much more complicated and confusing than we used to think. From their point of view, conflicts are not only needed, but also extremely important for our social, personal and emotional development. In their book, they explain that misunderstanding and quarrels are inevitable, and overcoming disagreements is the right way to establish truly strong relations with romantic partners, family, friends and colleagues.

Dr. Trinik was one of the first Researchers who showed how strong the emotions and behavior of parents have a strong effect on the child. His experiment “Stone Face” is described in many works on psychology and is used by specialists around the world. This is a vivid evidence of what role a connection plays for us. However, discords with loved ones, whether it is a parent or a romantic partner, inevitable, the cycle “Destruction - Restoration” we pass every day. And it is precisely overcoming disagreements, we form deep, long, trusting relationships, we become less susceptible to traumatic experience and are aware of who we are in this world.

for whom this book is

for all who is interested in the process of formation, development and maintenance of healthy relationships.

for those who want to understand their style of behavior and attitude to others.

for parents who want to form a healthy attitude in children to themselves and with others.

for those who work with children: educators, teachers, doctors.

for psychologists and psychotherapists, as well as their customers - for introspection and a deeper understanding yourself.