Hidden motives. The true reasons for our behavior. Ahola A.

Why do we constantly compare ourselves with others? Why is it easy and pleasant to communicate with some people, but with others - painful and boring? Why do we often abandon our goals and devote little time to what is really important to us?

, the doctor of psychology Angela Ahol claims that three motives are led by a person from ancient times: the need for social interaction, the desire to increase the status and desire to gain knowledge. Once they helped the human form to survive, and today they determine our behavior and affect relations with people.

Any of our emotions and actions are determined by hidden motives. When we worry about an unsuccessful outfit or are late for a meeting, we are led by the fear of social alienation. We strive to climb the career ladder to increase our status. And the thirst for knowledge helps to make great discoveries, but at the same time makes us dependent on gadgets and social networks.

Angela Achola explains how the need for relationships, status and knowledge changes the chemical structure of the brain and affects hormones. And they, in turn, determine the actions and decisions of a person. The author gives practical recommendations on how to make hidden motives work for you: learn to like others, better understand their behavior, increase the status with the benefit of yourself and others, receive knowledge without anxiety and limit yourself from information noise.