Separation: how to stop depending on other people. Khlebova V.

Veronika Khlebova is an existential psychologist, 10 years of personal therapy and 15 years of practice, a blogger and mother of three children. The author of 4 books, including the bestseller “to be a victim is no longer beneficial.”

each of us can find many “frozen” reactions that somehow reflect dependence on parents or the environment in which We grew up. They all require that they are noticed, that is, they realize.

in order to become truly an adult, you need to go through the separation process. Separation means that you managed to complete all the old children's processes in which you did not receive important initiation in adult life.

When we assign our experience, live our processes, we separate and become mature. Consciously overcome the fear of the absorbing parent, restore their separateness, grieve about what happened in childhood, strengthen their personal rights - this is the only way to release old defenses and resistance to relations. Having matured, we will feel quite stable.

after reading the book “separation: how to stop depending on other people”:

• You find a support in yourself;
< Li> adult life will stop scaring you;
• you will allow yourself what you used to think about before;
• You will stop representing other people large, and yourself - small and disenfranchised; Li>
• You will begin to appreciate and respect yourself;
• You will find out what you are and what you really want.