Separation: how to stop depending on other people. Khlebova V.

Each of us can find many “frozen” reactions in which dependence on parents or the environment in which we grew up is somehow reflected. They all require that they are noticed, that is, they realize.

in order to become truly an adult, you need to go through the separation process. Separation means that you managed to complete all the old children's processes in which you did not receive important initiation in adult life.

When we assign our experience, live our processes, we separate and become mature. Consciously overcome the fear of the absorbing parent, restore their separateness, grieve about what happened in childhood, strengthen their personal rights - this is the only way to release old defenses and resistance to relations. Having matured, we will feel quite stable.

Successful separation guarantees that:

-you will be a support in itself;

-sdent life will cease to frighten you; < /p>

-y you will feel strong enough to overcome all the difficulties;

-y you allow yourself what you were even afraid to think about before;

-y you will stop representing others people are large, and yourself-small and disenfranchised;

-y you will begin to appreciate and respect yourself;

-y you will find out what you are and what you really want.